What is a ADR Divorce Coach?
The American Bar Association defines divorce coaching as “a flexible, goal-oriented process designed to support, motivate, and guide people going through divorce to help them make the best possible decisions for their future, based on their particular interests, needs, and concerns.”
As a divorce coach trained in ADR (Alternative Dispute Resolution), I bring a specialized skill set that goes beyond standard divorce coach training. I help clients understand the core components of conflict and navigate its dynamics with clarity and strategy. Unlike general divorce coaching, ADR is recognized by the American Bar Association as a legitimate form of dispute resolution.
Divorce will inevitably bring conflict—but it doesn’t have to lead to combat. When clients are properly supported, they can move through high-stakes situations with more confidence, less chaos, and better outcomes. I support you before, during and after divorce to help you manage emotions, make smart decisions and avoid costly mistakes. I help my clients stay sane, stay future focused and stay financially responsible during one of the most stressful times in their lives. There is no winner in divorce, but you can make confident decisions and stay in control.
Finding the Right Divorce Coach for You
Choosing a divorce coach is an important decision. These questions can help you determine whether a coach is qualified, ethical, and the right fit for you and your situation.
- What certifications, credentials, and professional affiliations do you hold?
(Training and ethics matter. Personal experience alone does not replace professional education and training.) - Do you follow a professional code of ethics?
- How long have you been doing this work?
- How is divorce coaching different from therapy or legal representation?
- Do you work with clients in mediation, collaborative divorce, or litigation?
- Do you offer evening or weekend sessions if needed?
- How many coaching sessions do clients typically need?
- Can I contact you between sessions? If so, do you charge?
- Will our sessions remain confidential?
Ethics and Standards of Practice
I adhere to the DCA Standards of Practice as well as the ICF Code of Ethics.
How do coaching sessions work?
Coaching sessions are held one-on-one via secure video and are completely confidential. Sessions are intended for the named client only. In limited circumstances, and at the client’s request, I may participate in a meeting with an attorney or other professional, provided all parties agree in advance. Recording of sessions—audio or video—is not permitted.
How does a Divorce Coach help?
The whole idea of divorce can be scary and overwhelming for the strongest person. Divorce is rated the second most stressful event you can experience in life. Wouldn’t it be nice to have an experienced professional guide you through and help you avoid the big mistakes?
You probably have a million questions and not many good answers.
- Where do I start?
- Where do I start?
- What documents do I need and when?
- What will divorce mean for me and my family?
- Is there a way to be amicable and still protect myself?
- How can I minimize the impact on my children?
- How do I create a parenting plan?
- What happens to all our retirement savings and pension plans?
- And so many other questions!
The antidote to fear is knowledge and that’s where a divorce coach can help. When you feel supported and knowledgeable, you make confident decisions and that create a better outcome for everyone.
Does a Divorce Coach replace my attorney?
No, your divorce coach does not replace your attorney, a coach compliments their work as a member of your team. You still need a specialist in family law for legal advice, but by processing and prepping with your coach you utilize your attorney more efficiently.
When you have clarity about your goals and priorities and can communicate those clearly to your attorney, they can do their job more effectively which usually translates to better outcome and a smaller legal bill.
Won’t it cost more to work with a Divorce Coach?
It sounds counter-intuitive right? Adding a divorce coach to your team could actually save you money in the long run?
But here’s the hard truth. The business of divorce is mostly about making decisions. And no one can do that for you. Not your $400+/hr lawyer, not your $200/hr therapist, not your who knows how much financial planner and certainly not your friends or family. Only you can.
Investing in a divorce coach is the equivalent of hiring a guide to climb Mt Everest. Someone who knows the terrain, can help you get where you want to go and point you in the right direction when you need more specialized help.
A better divorce experience requires being prepared, organized and thoughtful. Working with a coach helps you get laser focused on your own priorities. You’ll feel confident to make smart decisions, so you can utilize the services of other professionals more efficiently. That means fewer costly mistakes made out of exhaustion or emotional overload and lower expenses overall. Win-win!
I’m already divorced, can you still help me?
Absolutely. Many still need support long after the papers are signed and the ink is dry. You still have a lot of hard decisions to make and a bunch of emotions that can be tough to manage. You might be having a hard time with co-parenting, getting back into the work force or dating.
My specialty is working with people before, during and after divorce. My coaching training, along with my life experience — having been divorced, a single parent, remarried, and step-parent — has prepared me to assist clients with all the bumps along the road.
How can I find out more?
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